People think, "I'll be happy when. . ."

• My spouse decides to be fully supportive of my dreams.
• When I make X amount of dollars in my business.
• When the weather changes--hello, Spring!
• When I stop yelling at my kids.
• When I have a year of food storage put up for my family.
• When my body is 40lbs. lighter than it currently is, and less flabby, too.
• When I finally figure out what I was put here on Earth to do.
• When my chickens start laying eggs.
• When my kids grow up a little and I can finally catch a break for myself.
• When I've established a flourishing permaculture food forest in my suburban lot. (Wait, is that just me on that goal?! Ha!)
• When I acquire that thing I've been wanting.
• When my kids value what I value. (Listen up, already, tiny people!)
• When others start to take my competence, knowledge, and advice about a given subject seriously. . .
• When I stop killing all my house plants.
• When I live in an intentional community with other like-minded people.
• When I am healed from what ails me.
• Fill in the blank with any specific outcome, here.

Self-esteem is built by taking action on things that matter to you. And joy is a product of living in harmony with WHAT you choose to do, and most importantly WHY you choose to do it.When the reasons why you pursue action are joy and commitment-based instead of shame or shackle-based, everything changes around you for the better and with much less resistance.

When you realize that your own fulfilled potential (AKA living in integrity) is what you are longing for, you'll stop looking for outcomes outside yourself, and change everything about WHAT you do, and HOW you show up to do it.

That could include choosing to rest more and snuggle with your cute littlest kids, too, btw! (Babies don't keep!)

When you live in integrity, other people will be attracted to your natural radiance and your capacity to influence will grow.

As a life coach, I am always looking to help my clients progress in two fundamental ways:

#1 Increase crystal clarity about their desired outcomes.

#2 Reduce shame-based reasons for pursuing those outcomes.

If you are looking to nurture your capacity for influence in some sort of mentoring or coaching capacity, join me for a free training on how to help your people:

#1 Get clear on what they want.

#2 Remove shame that prevents them from moving forward towards their desired intentions.

Let's spread the joy! See you in class!